What to write in a blog today? I know – I’ll revisit a piece I wrote in Value Adding # 54 – the summer 2009 edition of the AnD Consulting newsletter.
In it I referred to a book – The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I didn’t find it a particularly good read – it was repetitive and too god-centric for my liking. However I did like it’s core message that there are five different ways that love can be expressed and that we each have our favourites.
These are: words of affirmation, quality time, giving and receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. You could score yourself at the end and when my partner and I both scored highest on affirmation and physical touch I declared that this didn’t mean he needn’t give me gifts at Christmas and birthdays!
In the newsletter I translated these five ways to express love to how they might apply in the workplace. I believe that effective leaders praise, invest time, contribute to and even, with care, give their team members a pat on the back when it’s earned.
Which are your preferred ways of expressing and receiving love? And how about you as a leader? If you think you could do with some help to adapt your leadership style, see our Leadership Coaching process and/or contact me.













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As my golden labrador Ruby and I enjoyed our morning walk today my thoughts went to the Adversity Quotient referred to in my latest Value Adding newsletter. My mind then jumped to Goleman’s emotional intelligence (EI) and the fact that people with high EI are able to self regulate. The link I made was that those of us who have a high tolerance level for managing adversity are likely to also be able to regulate their emotions. I then found myself thinking about leadership and the fact that it’s not enough for leaders to have a high IQ and be technically competent – they must also control their emotions in highly charged situations. I hear anecdotally that bullying by senior managers is not uncommon – surely this suggests a lack of ability for self control and self regulation and the urgent need for some